2. Celebrate BOTH Newlyweds – It’s probably safe to assume that you’re a lot closer to either the bride OR the groom meaning you have endless stories and compliments about one and not the other. This is even more apparent if you are mom or dad giving the speech with 20+ years of material to reference. However, it’s important to balance your toast with kind words about each of the newlyweds or at least make sure you carve out a few awesome sentences for the other person.
It shouldn’t be too difficult to come up with some wording on how well both complement each other and take it a step further by providing some examples. It’s crazy how often we see a speech that’s solely about one person when this whole event is about two. Even if your new brother in law drive you crazy, you should deliver your speech as if he has a heart of Nelson Mandela.
Here’s a sentence you can work into your speech: “I can honestly say in the X number of years that I’ve known (insert name), I’ve never seen (him/her) this happy, it’s clear that (he/she) is a better person because of you (insert name). There’s no doubt that the two of you are better together and I’m excited for this new adventure that awaits you.”
This is also a good opportunity to compliment both sets of parents by saying something like, “it’s clear, that Mr. and Mrs. (Mom & Dad) did a great job at teaching their (son/daughter) the value of kindness, patience, and love. Although today is about the bride and groom we should take a moment to applaud both sets of Moms and Dads for not only hosting such a beautiful event but also raising two fantastic people. Please put your hands together for the parents.”
I see it all the time, the best man takes the stage and dedicates the entire speech of his toast talking about the groom and neglects to talk about the bride or anyone else. Long story short, see if there’s a way to acknowledge a couple more wedding VIP’s.